Nowadays social media or the Internet, in general, have made it so much easier for people to find someone to date. Instead of having to go outside and actually see new people, you can easily meet someone via Internet. One good example is Tinder. Tinder is a free, location-based mobile dating app that simplifies the process most dating websites require. You simply download the app to your smartphone, link to your Facebook account, choose up to six photos of yourself, and write a brief bio. That’s it! The app shows you photos of singles based on your preferences. You swipe left if you don’t like them and swipe right if you do. If someone you like also swiped right on your photo, the app immediately informs you, “It’s a Match!” and urges you to begin chatting.
Although online dating has become more and more common, it also brings in new challenges for relationships to stem from it. Dating someone you met online is very different to dating someone you met in ‘real life’. There are some things that need to be taken into consideration when it comes to online dating in order for you to have the relationship you want. Below are 8 things to keep in mind when you want to meet a potential lover in person:
Be wary of trusting anyone online too soon
Remember that people you have met online are still strangers, no matter how long you have been talking to them or how friendly they are. Don’t just let profiles speak for themselves, though. You can find out a lot about a person yourself just by searching online. You don’t have to track down every habit they have or ruin all the first-date questions. However, the “Will I survive this encounter with all my parts intact?” question should be settled before you step out the door.
Trust your instinct
If you feel that something isn’t right or if you find it difficult to trust the person you’re in contact with then please, go with your instincts. Trusting in your dating instincts will make you feel free, it will help you get over failed experiments, and it will help you keep confidence when things don’t go right.
You must have at least used Skype or used a webcam
Never ever go further into your relationship with someone online unless you have seen him through a webcam and vice versa. If they make excuses as to why they don’t want to use a webcam then be wary. Because anyone who doesn’t have anything to hide would not mind showing their face at all.
You must be making plans to meet in person
It is one thing to fall in love with someone you’ve never met before but it is another to fall in love and not invest in some form of physical contact. A relationship can surely survive and work without two people having to always be around each other. However, having zero physical contact throughout your relationship is not a healthy one either.
Hook-up or romantic partner?
Make a point of mentioning your views on relationships and hook-ups in as casual a way as possible. You should listen, really listen, to everything he’s telling you. Most of the time, guys are giving you some super-clear clues about who they are, where they’re at in life, and what they’re really capable of giving. Pay attention to everything.
Tell a friend where you’re going to be
First, there are obvious safety reasons for doing this. Second, even if you don’t feel as if you are in danger, dates like this can become awkward or tense. If this happens, you can have your friend contact you with an emergency to give you an out; however, this technique should only be used if you feel you must do so to avoid a loud confrontation or an prolonged dialogue about why things aren’t a good fit.
Skip going to dinner or movies
These are very common choices for a first date, they aren’t ideal. Going to dinner is too intense. The problem with going to the movies is the opposite. There’s no interaction, and that means no chance to get to know each other more. Think of activities that will give you and your date the chance to talk with each other, and get to know more about one another.
Have realistic expectations.
Yes, every once in a while you will meet somebody who is absolutely lovely online, but completely unbearable in person. For the most part, people aren’t that different when you meet them in person—they may be a little less talkative or a little more outgoing. On the other hand, don’t set your expectations too high.
To find someone who clicks with you, someone who will like you for more than your cute smile and killer bod, talk about some of your personal quirks. A person who is naïve and immature enough to want the “ideal” is less likely to waste your time if you reveal in your profile one or two of the things that make you a specialized, rather than a mass-market, partner.
The best way to make a great connection with somebody, or at least enjoy the date is to have fun. Laugh, enjoy yourself, and remember that dating is supposed to be a fun experience. Don’t spend the evening wondering if you are, or are not making a connection. Your date will certainly enjoy spending time with you if they see you enjoying yourself.
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